Thick Kink Advice – Plus-Size Strap-ons

Posted by on July 2, 2013    Category: dildos ,sex toys     ·Tagged , , , , .

There’s a tumblr I run called Thick Kink, and there was a question in the inbox today relating to strap-on harnesses for large people.  A big chunk of my afternoon was spent on the answer, so I figured I’d post it here too.  Hopefully it will be helpful to others.

hey there. not sure if this is the best place to ask, but i dont know anywhere else to. my man really wants me to peg him but i’m dreading the idea of trying to find a strap on that would actually work for me with my big belly and flat butt. seriously, i cant even get panties to stay on my hips, and my tummy overhang kinda precludes any sort of high-waisted getup. maybe your followers could give me some suggestions?

Being both fat and a pegging aficionado, I can totally sympathize with your predicament.  Finding strap-on equipment that’s suited for large bodies can be difficult.

One thing you could try is a double dildo that doesn’t require a harness – these are usually boomerang-shaped with a bulbous end that goes inside you and a phallic end that you use to fuck your partner.  The bonus with these is, obviously, you don’t need to worry about finding a harness that fits properly; realistically however, some of these types of dildos don’t actually work super great without a harness, especially if you’re going to be doing vigorous thrusting.  The good thing for you and the rest of us larger folks is that I’ve found that having a plump pubic region and thighs tends to help these dildos stay put a little bit better.

Here’s a list of the best “Harness-free” Double dildos on the market; they are all made of 100% body-safe silicone by reputable companies:

  • Share by Fun Factory – my personal favorite double dildo – has largest bulb end of all the “harness-free” double dildos, and seems to stay put without a harness better than any of the others – also available directly from Fun Factory in XS and XL sizes – you can read my review of the Share here
  • Tango by Fuze – the angle of the toy may help it stay in without the harness – has a hole for a mini vibrator
  • Nexus by Vixen Creations – comes in two sizes – works better w/ harness than without
  • Feeldoe by Tantus – comes in three sizes – tends to not stay in very well without a harness – comes w/ removable mini vibrator
  • Realdoe by Tantus – the only realistic-looking harness-free double dildo – comes in one size – tends to not stay in very well without harness – comes w/ removable mini vibrator

 

Another option is, obviously, to find a good harness that will fit you.  This is definitely not impossible; there’s plenty of harnesses out there that come in larger sizes, and many that can sit low on the pelvis, under an over-hanging belly.  I’d recommend finding one that’s very adjustable but sturdy (so you can buckle it nice and tight to keep it from slipping down over your butt), and can also sit low on the hips, under your belly in the front.

Here’s a list of Plus-Sized Harnesses that I think might work for you:

  • Corsette Harness (in purple here) – The shape of the back might help it stay up if you have a flat behind – I have one of these harnesses and I love it; it fits very comfortably, is easily adjustable, and it can sit low enough that my belly isn’t a problem – Fits up to 60″ hips (though it could actually fit someone much larger imo) – read my review here
  • Jaguar Harness by Aslan Leather – sexy leather harness that sits a little lower on the hips – Large fits 36″-56″ Hips
  • “Pleasure Harness” – slim, low-profile harness that converts to a thong-style one-strap or a jock-style two-strap – Large fits up to 56″ hips
  • Terra Firma Harness – the classic leather harness, known for great design and easy adjustment – Fits up to 48” hips.
  • SpareParts Joque Harness – supposed to be super comfy and sturdy, “becomes a virtual second skin that forms and adjusts to your unique shape and size.” – Large fits from 35″ up to 65″ hips.

 

Underwear harnesses could be worth looking into, as well; you said that panties don’t stay up very well, but these are much sturdier than your average undies, plus there are a few different styles in this type of harness, and one of them might work for you:

  • Sasha Couture Harness by SpareParts – feminine brief-style harness w/ detachable garters & ribbon ties on the sides that convert it from booty shorts to a high cut panty – goes up to 3X: 49-52 in. (124-132cm)
  • RodeoH Underwear Harnesses – several styles (briefs & boxers) that go up to XXXL (39-41″ hips) – SheVibe also carries more varieties of RodeoH products in larger sizes (supposedly up to 55″ hips) – I haven’t had a chance to try any RodeoH products, but the sizing seems weird, and it sounds like they tend to fit smaller than you’d think, which may be why Early2Bed has the measurements that they do… if you’re interested in these products, do some research before purchasing.
  • Tomboi Brief Harness by SpareParts – goes up to 3X: 49-52 in. (124-132cm)

 

A thigh harness might be a good solution for you, too.  The one I linked to fits up to 29” thighs and is supposed to stay put really well.

 

That’s about all I’ve got; I hope some of this was helpful in answering the question!  If anybody else has advice or suggestions to offer, please do.  I’m happy to answer other questions too; my inbox is always open.

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